I get some version of the same question a lot, from people who care about ending sexual violence but aren’t sure where they fit. “I’m not a survivor. I’m not a service provider. I just want to help. What does that actually look like?”

It’s a good question, one that deserves a real answer instead of a hashtag. Allyship in this movement isn’t a shared post during Sexual Assault Awareness Month followed by silence for the other eleven months of the year. It’s a practice, built the same way any skill is built, through repetition, discomfort, a willingness to be corrected.